My Favorite Marriage Books

Some of these books need to be read with a grain of salt. There were a few things here and there that I didn’t agree with or maybe weren’t worded well, but overall each of the below books had sound advice and wisdom that we have found helpful implementing in our marriage.

Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband by Gary Thomas – This book is about the role a godly wife can have in her husband’s life if she keeps her eyes on God. Thomas reminds us to go to God first for our worth, validation, protection, and provision and then hopefully through that our husbands will draw closer to us and closer to God.

Women Living Well: Find Your Joy in God, Your Man, Your Kids, and Your Home by Courtney Joseph – This book was inspirational in so many ways. Joseph covers many topics including how to be a godly wife, mother, and homemaker.

His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley Jr. – This book identifies the ten most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to satisfy those needs in their spouses. This is one of the books that I would take with a grain of salt because it is a bit stereotypical. There were a few “needs” that I felt like should be switched for me and my husband personally. But overall, it was a great read! Harley gives ideas for loving more creatively by trying to determine and meet your spouse’s top needs. He lists the wife’s top needs as affection, intimate conversation, honesty and openness, financial support, and family commitment. According to Harley, the husband’s top needs are sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, domestic support, and admiration.

The Flirtation Experiment: Putting Magic, Mystery, and Spark into your Everyday Marriage by Lisa Jacobson and Phylicia Masonheimer – I was very encouraged by this book. Both Lisa and Phylicia experimented to see how their marriages would change by adding in a little more flirtation and romance. Flirtation in marriage can bring you closer together in meaningful ways and lead to deeper intimacy.

Capture His Heart: Becoming the Godly Wife your Husband Desires by Lisa TerKeurst – I absolutely loved this book; it is probably my favorite on the list. If you love your husband and want to learn ways to show him, this is the book for you. TerKeurst identifies several needs of husbands that wives can fulfill. She encourages wives to support their husband spiritually, encourage them emotionally, enjoy them sexually, appreciate them vocationally, engage them intellectually, connect with them relationally, affirm them physically, and stand by them permanently.

How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong by Leslie Vernick – This book was super convicting. It challenges you to focus on your own self instead of the things your husband is doing wrong. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage or perfect spouse. Acting right when your spouse acts wrong will not necessarily make your spouse change his or her ways. It will, however, lead you into a deeper relationship with Christ as you focus on your own sin’s and your need for Christ.

Vertical Marriage: The One Secret that will Change Your Marriage by Dave and Ann Wilson – This is my most recent read on marriage. It was encouraging and convicting to me. The Wilsons give you the tools you need to embrace effective communication, fair conflict, true romance, and deeper connection with God at the center of your marriage.

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